It's been a long long break since I've wrote about my thoughts. I think it's time to get the thinking cap on again. I was just pondering over some stuffs.. Everyone in this life will have to go through a phase of life that is undesirable. Not everytime things and situations will go the way you want it to go. Things would not really able to turn out the way you want it to be. Sometimes when things happen to you.. you tend to think, ALOT. Well, dat's what happened to me too. I think ALOT. But I never thought dat people's intentions are negative or they are doing this because they don't like me or something like dat. We are all human beings.. so no one's perfect in this life. No one will ever have a perfect life in this life. When we indulge in such thinking, we tend to misunderstand people's intentions and motives. Sometimes the intentions and motives turn out to be negative. You thought people delibrately do this to you, but the fact is.. perhaps you've really misunderstood. Uncontrollable situations does happen and is out of the control of our hands.
Sometimes when we meet new people, we put on a shield on the outer layer. You wouldn't want the new friend to think dat you're weird or know the ugly side of you. Dat's why you don't let out what you really are inside. But once you start to know the person deeper inside, after you thought the person has accepted you for who you are.. you will come out of your outer layer and let the other party pry into ur personality and let them know the real you. Sometimes upon meeting new people, you already think dat you and the other new friend do not have the chemistry. You know what I mean? Not because you don't like the person. It's because you just do not have the chemistry between the both of you. Perhaps the new friend and you have a clashing interest or a clashing personality. Some things just work and some things don't. This is the theory of life. That's why there are so many people on this earth who has different personality and character. If you don't have the chemistry between both parties, then it's just not there. For example, you can't go liking every guy you see on the road or you can't be liking every person you meet as friends. It's because some values doesnt click with yours. You meet the person, then you get to know the person more.. then you proceed to the next level. All these takes chemistry. If there is nothing to talk about, I'm afraid things just don't work out. Btw, when you're with a person, you don't always have to talk. Sometimes silence is GOOD. I dont really understand why most people tend to perceive that silence is an awkward thing. If you're really confortable with the person.. silence is OKAY.
Upon proceeding to the next level of a relationship, be it with ur family, friends or your partner.. it really goes in a cycle.. so back to upon proceeding, your conversations tend to change too. When you first met, you talk about general stuffs.. like sharing an interest in football, fashion, music, entertainment gossips, etc.. When you go to the next level, you talk about yourself.. your family..You share things about yourself and about your family and your background... You talk about interesting stuffs that happened to yourself. You talk about interesting dat happened to your family. You talk about future plans.. You talk about stuffs that you wanna share. Sharing plays a very very important role in a relationship. Imagine my mum wouldn't wanna share her experiences with me.. would there be a bondage between me and her? I hardly think so. The essence of a relationship is communication and sharing. And yes, you may shut up once in a while and just listen to your heart. It's true that girls always talk alot... but mind you, they talk about themselves.. what happened and everything among their family and their old friends.. You wanna share a part of you with the other party.. Basically experiences.. Dat's how conversations come around. Besides that, they talk about fashion, movies, music and common interests you once shared in your first level of relationship... not about other people. I must admit, I'm no communication expert.. I'm no conversationalist expert.. I'm not really a sociable person.. but I'm okay to get along with.. I can be sociable when I want to... It really depends on who I hang out with. Dat's basically the chemistry theory again...
Think about it.
Tatty Teddy posted at 6.12.05 |
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